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Why you are unique and similar to others alike

Did you feel like you’re special as a child? I did. Must have been around ten years old when I believed that my consciousness is truly something others don’t have in the same quality. Childish naivety or a profound discovery? Let’s explore it the ExperienceZone way.

We’re all part of the same species

You’re part of humanity. This puts you on par with me. On almost all levels. It includes the makeup of our internal processes: If we’re threatened, fear emerges within us. If we’re delighted, love creeps up. The same applies to our thoughts. If we’re challenged intellectually, we tend to think. Math exercises in school or a round of chess with our parents activate our left hemisphere. The crying baby might cause empathy triggered by our right side of the brain (mind David Pink’s great books). In terms of our external processes, we see the similar patterns. Feelings drive our behavior. We usually tend to speak before we act. Both have repercussions to our internal processes. Finally, our physical structure looks similar: We’ve a head sitting on a corpus with four extremities attached.

You only exist once

Here’re the relieving news for my childish ego: I was right: I’m different to others. In fact, we’re all unique, but only if you dare to take a closer look. Although our human characteristics are the same, the way they use them and how they look significantly differs. You like don’t like cheese. I do (although it’s not healthy). Yet as a child I hated cheese. You like hanging out all day on a Sunday. I hate it (too much of a productivity junkie).

Differences between you and me are caused by our unique genetic blueprint (the stuff your mom and dad inherited to you plus maybe a legacy from former lives). Also, our socialization, including education and parenting wildly differed. You’re and you behave based on your experiences. Latter formed your personality, belief system and your body (I know that the last part is hard to get). Yet, whatever you want to do with your life, i.e. in which way you want to be or act differently or similar (mind role models) to others is in your hands. Every moment you make a decision.

What do you do with these discoveries?

Let’s come up with some tangible steps. Here’re my recommendations:

  1. Mind uniqueness and similarities. Awareness is the first step towards change. So you want to run a personality analysis to find out who you really are. Also, you can travel the country humanity to explore how we’re treating each other and planet earth.
  2. Appreciate your extraordinary capabilities. Once you know where you’re coming from, who you’re and where you want to go (for latter, I advice you to define your mission and aims in life), your self-confidence gets lifted on another level. Reason being it’s based on a stellar introspection. This will enable you to act with skill and tact.
  3. Leverage individuality and commonality. Knowledge without application is like a car without an engine. You need to lean in your career, your social life, your health and self-development. In addition, reach out to like minded people. Those are on the same mission and are open to join forces.

Are you aware of your self-image and resulting belief system?

If there’s one first-stage success-killer, then it’s your beliefs. You can achieve what ever you believe in. This might sound corny yet is so true and real as the person you see in the mirror. You want to get rid of any self-limitations? Then apply my ExperienceZone recipe.

Tell me about your past and I tell you who you’re

Let’s start with the basics: Your self-image. It’s the result of everything, which “happened” to you in life thus far. Why the air quotes? Well, you’ve co-created everything. I know, it’s disappointing and relieving alike. Here’s my favorite example: Imagine your father told you that you’re a loser in sports. The more he’s been an authority person for you and the more often he echoed the message, the deeper it got written on your mental hard drive. At least subconsciously you believed him eventually. Not being good in sports became a part of your self-image. Based on this experience, you might now carry the belief that you’ll never be an athlete. Others better not ask you to play in their team. They might loose. This limiting believe restricts you to peak perform. There’ll be always moments, in which you need to put your physical skills to the test tough.

My little golf anecdote

I just returned from a golf-course. Key learning: My game is as good as my daily mindset. Period. Interesting, huh? Of course, you need to practice to become good in something. Yet if you believe that you’re good in it, you take the first step towards mastery. It already half of the story. Beliefs trigger energy. The raw materials for your game plan. As soon as you’re convinced of the “what” (I wanted to play at least one hole on par), you just need to figure out the “how”. I played with two balls, since I was alone and had the time. This enabled me to practice twice as much as with only one ball. Duh… What else did I do? I visualized (a classic in golf). Mental images are great levers to make beliefs reality.

There’re two basic phases to step up your game

First, you need to believe the right things. Positive ones, which help you to pursue your mission and aims in life. Don’t lay down in bed and think about Elysium or another dark science fiction scenario come true. You’re neither doing yourself nor humanity good with these manifestation efforts. Instead, envision us living in harmony with each other and planet earth.

Second, you better take action. The sooner, the better. Actions are magic. They transform the energy you’ve created by expanding your belief system and coming up with a game plan into tangible results. It doesn’t matter if you fail or win. Most important is that you try.

How do you break this down into actionable steps?

“Easy”, like my refresher dive-instructor used to say. Here’re my recommendations:

  1. Discover limiting beliefs: Run a personality analysis to find out where you’re from and who you’re. You might think this is a given because you’ve spent your life with yourself. Yet a clear picture of your strengths, weaknesses and thus any limiting beliefs is paramount to personal transformation. Otherwise you would not know where to start as characters are rather complex and abstract if not analyzed systemically. Hence, get over the awkward feeling of playing Freud or Jung. Self-reflection makes fun and is super-valuable. Based on it, you want to uncover any limiting believes. Write them down (e.g. I’m not a good athlete).
  2. Create positive opposites: Once you’ve documented 5-10 limiting beliefs in bullet points, come up with opposites for each restricting belief (e.g. I’m the best athlete in the world). Formulate them in such a way, which resonates with you, i.e. the positive believe needs to be simple, short and understandable. Put them next to your bed. Read them aloud after waking up and before going to sleep. Not robot-style but try to create images around them (e.g. how you score in sports). The more inventive you become around this, the faster your old dysfunctional beliefs get replaced by the new functional ones.
  3. Jump fear in its face: Actively seek for situations, which enable you to put your new beliefs into practice (e.g. sign up for sports tournaments). Why? Thought, feelings and words are nothing without actions. If you want to get better in something, you got to do it. Continue to think big despite initial failures (mind Michael Jordan got kicked out of his college basketball team). Stand up, smile and try again. Let nobody belittle your ambitions. Instead show willpower and persistence. Motivation always beats talent. You can be, do and have anything with the right attitudes.

What do TCM, Ayurveda and philosophy have in common?

Well, all three are somehow related to self-development. Yet, how exactly? What are the subtle differences? Can you use these schools of thoughts to improve your life? Questions which justify an ExperienceZone analysis.

Talking constitution types

Yeah, you’re unique in many ways. By the same token you’re part of the human race and thus have similarities with me. Apart from the fact that we both have two arms and legs or ten fingers, there might be behavioral commonalities between us. If our bodies look similar, there’re high chances that our mentality, even our world views, are not too far apart. Creepy, huh? As inside, so outside and vice versa. Our exteriors (bodies and postures) are products of our interiors (emotions, thoughts and feelings).

God, All-that-is, the universe, nature or whatever you’d like to call it, seems to use baking tins. There’re certain types of human beings. Do you know two persons, which are unrelated yet look and act similar? This is not a deja-vu but your recognition of the divine blueprint. The old Chinese and Indian tried to cluster people, so that they can analyze, diagnose and forecast physical and behavioral attributes. The three biggest systems are Traditional European Medicine (TEM), Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and Ayurveda.

TEM is admirably more a collection of medieval techniques than a closed system. Based on who you ask, it contains next to the discoveries of monks and herb witches the approaches of Kneipp and von Bingen. Many of those contradict each other. Yet interestingly, some put people  in buckets to analyze their characteristics based on commonalities.

TCM is the system of the old Chinese. It embraces five human attributes (earth, wood, water, fire and air), which find their equivalents in colors, climates and cycles (such as seasons). The underlying principles is Qi, which can be translated as the life energy. Everything consists of two poles, ying and yang. Balance of those ensure health. Extremes bring disease in the long run.

Ayurveda is the Indian school of thought, which is applied in Sri Lanka full-fledged way only. Mind the wellness vacation mid-age women book and return from enlightened. Sorry for being biased here. Actually, the system is as comprehensive as TCM and contains similarities, such as the inclusion of elements. Here those get translated into three stereotypes of people: Pitta, Vatta and Kapha.

Get the best out of these systems!

Next to the frameworks above, generations of philosophers – dating back to ancient Greece – tried to categorize human beings in order to come up with effective recommendations on how we need to live in order to stay healthy and become happy. Here’re my advise:

  1. Self-test: Gain clarity about who you are. Run a personality analysis, read books about constitution types and simply look in the mirror! You’ll get interesting clues about the clusters you belong to. Plural? Oh yes, you – like all other people – don’t embody one but at least components of two types. In that sense your uniqueness shines through.
  2. Trial and error: Try some suggestions from old Europe, China and India. Check if you can really stand hot sweet food better since you’re a Vatta type or do need to deep breather in  order to relax and thus balance your sometimes stressful wooden style. Change only one thing at a time. Do it for at least a week. Write down your observations in a log before going to sleep. Well-being is your indicator for being on the right track.
  3. Social network scan: Once you know which types you belong to, you can evaluate that people you engage with on a daily basis. What about your family members? Is you partner warm or cold blooded? Do you’ve an outgoing or reserved boss? The more you think and act along the lines of constitution or body types, the sharper your horse sense becomes. Eventually, you’ll get to know and understand yourself as well as others very well.

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