Everything changes every time. Yet what triggers deliberate personal transformations? Extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. They can be split into away-from or to-wards drivers. Let’s investigate this one the ExperienceZone way.
From initial to structured life improvements
First things first: Terminology. Extrinsic motivation is caused by outside factors, such as the expectation of getting rewarded for a certain behavior. Mind your salary. Intrinsic motivation represents the things you do just because you want to without any outlook on external recognition. Hence, latter is usually the result of inspiration, i.e. your mind is inspired, which triggers action.
The other two motivational dimensions are away-from suffering (imagine you’re facing health problems and want to change your diet) and to-wards goals (think about a certain body weight you want to have). Interestingly, most people initially change away from discomfort.
So did I twice profoundly. At the age of 21, I propelled from my first valley of despair. I exclusively drove on the hedonistic lane. Consequently, my grades at university dropped and my first love left me. After picturing myself a loser, I finally got on my feet and changed everything big-time. Yet I turned the wheel too much too fast and got health issues. Therefore, I needed to rebuild my body and focus on food quality instead of quantity from thereon. Since then I live life dynamically, yet balanced. Meantime, cultivating new routines is like a piece of cake.
Ergo: Many people need to first fall deep before they learn to climb (away-from motivation). Once they know how to do it though, they start to design their lives like architects and change it effortlessly (to-wards motivation).
Motivation represents your readiness to act.
I don’t want you to walk through your own desert before you learn to flex your life. Instead, you can learn from my experiences. Admittedly, change is not easy but simple. Here’re the steps:
- Be honest to yourself. “Actually, I’m satisfied with my life.” Well, people using the term “actually” have a huge sign on their foreheads: “I’m not happy yet don’t know how or don’t want to change things.” Apparently their pain is just not big enough yet. So check yourself. Is there anything in any area of life you want to change? If yes, why don’t you do it? Do you’ve any limiting believes? Honesty leads to awareness. Awareness is the first step towards any improvement.
- Picture your dream life. Our common objective is to become happy. Happiness is a complex thing though. Why? It’s a state of mind. If you’re not happy at the moment, you want to change your mind, which implies changing your thoughts, feelings, emotions and underlying belief-system. Since this is difficult, I recommend you to change your words and actions first. They’ll positively impact your inner processes. Beforehand gain clarity about how your life looks like “in perfect” and what you need to do to get there. In other words: Define your mission and set aims in life.
- Switch into active gear. A car is useless without an engine. Strategy is nothing without execution. Your ideas are worthless without action. Once you fleshed out a plan, you need to follow through with willpower and persistence. Chunk it down into incremental steps, so that you witness small successes along the way. Latter are big enough to fire your motivation and lift you on a virtual cycle. Experience it and remember my words along the way: Change is not easy but simple.