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Why do opposites attract?

We all know this phrase. We found it to be true in various situations. Seems like this truism serves us as a proxy for many phenomenons. I recently discovered that it particulary applies between partners. Hence, let’s uncover it the ExperienceZone way.

Everything in the universe is based on polarities

Day and night. Light and shadow. Heat and cold. All apperances are just expressions on different scales. Circadian rythms, brightness and temperature. One extreme cannot exist without the other. In fact, they seem to dance with another. Even more: One needs the other. Mind magnetismus. Likes reject and opposites attract.

Human relationships are energetic

Similar to magnetism, relationships are based on an exchange of energy as well. Latter is just on a another level, yet follows the same principle. Pushing and pulling forces. We call them male and female energy. Male energy is expressive, analytical and sequentially goal-oriented. Female energy is receptive, emotional and concurrently fulfillment-seeking.

Neutrality makes relationships fail

If one partner has an surplus in male energy and the other one a excess in female energy, their forces create tension. Tension leads to attraction between two human beings – physically, emotionally and spiritually. Everyone embodies both forms of energy. Traditionally, men are heavy in male energy and women have more female energy. However, in the late sixties, men cultivated their female energy and wore colorful clothes and long hair. In the course of emancipation, women increasingly focused on their career. This lead to an equalization of energies within individuals and therewith in relationships. The results are a lack of tension and thus attractiveness between partners. Divorces, single towns and low birth rates in the developed counties.

What can you do?

We all want to be appreciated. Actually being loved. Genetically, there’re two different keys to the kingdom depending on your gender.

If you’re a man, you usually want to cultivate your male energy. Why the heck are you on this planet? Define your mission. Then derive aims in life for each area. Afterwards pursue them as the top priority. If you’re or go into a relationship, you need to love your partner with all you got. Express your male energy physically instead of trying to understand her analytically. Yet always show integrity to your goals and your unbreakable will to be free. This is the strongest attractor for your wife.

In case you’re a woman, you are invited to cultivate your female energy. Live and breathe love. Be there for your partner. Also, follow your dreams yet accept your receptive side. Test his integrity continuously as a vibrant relationship fills your heart. Show your emotions and allow your man to let his feelings out. This behavior draws him to you.

Polar energies are gender independent. Even same-sex relationships require one to be active analytical and the other one to be passive emotional. Don’t force yourself into an energetic pattern you’re not feeling comfortable with. Rather accept that you might have found a wrong match, but realize that polarities always offer challenges and thus opportunities for growth for both sides. On a sidenote: We’re covering the necessary foundational energetic differences here. Of course, you need to have similarities with your partner to sustain a long term relationship.

Did you know that digestion takes 80% of your energy?

Do you sometimes feel down after a meal? Well, it certainly tasted great yet leaves you with a bitter-sweet aftermath, which is called “energy drop”. Why and how does this phenomenon occur? And how can you prevent it going forward? Let’s dive into it the ExperienceZone way.

Your energy balance sheet

Everything in the universe consists of energy. It’s ever expanding since the big-bang. At square one, there was infinite density and temperature. Now, our climate on planet earth is decent and matter is well spread.

All energy is still there. Neither new one can be created nor can it be destroyed. It can only be transformed. Food is energy provided by plants or – worst case – animals. Hence, eating fuels your body with energy. Energy, it needs to function – physically and mentally. There’s one caveat though. The cheer act of digestion requires energy. Your jaws need to chew and produces saliva. Your stomach generates gastric acid. Your intestines host microbes, who dehydrate food and soak out the nutrients.

In order to maximize the plus side of your energy balance sheet, you want to minimize the energy investment in digestion whilst maximizing the nutritional value of the food you consume. This way, you’ve a net surplus of energy through eating and tackle your day effectively.

Be food-smart

I used to eat a lot of carbs, dairy products and processed sugar. Afterwards, I felt into the valley of low energy. It took me many years to find my ideal diet and way of consuming food. Whilst there’s certainly no one-size-fits-all, there’re universal dietary rules you want to bear in mind:

  1. Focus on quality. When it comes to food, you want to buy local and seasonal plant based food. Especially leafy greens combined with fruit are high in energy. Don’t confuse energy with calories though. High energy food can be easily converted by your body without friction or loss. High caloric food is dense in terms of its nutritional value, yet isn’t necessarily easy to digest – think red meat. Strive to become a good processor of food rather than eating tons of stuff. It will only slag your digestive track and thus weaken your digestive power.
  2. Follow the sun. As human beings, we’re aligned to the natural rhythms of our planet. So is your digestive power. It is strongest when the sun in in zenith, i.e. at noon. Hence, you want to have a mid-size meal in the morning, a rather large one at noon and at most a snack in the evening.
  3. Purify your food. Next to what you’re eating in which amounts at which time of the day, the way you consume food is paramount. A year ago, I discovered the advantages of a good blender. If you purify your food with it, your whole digestive track needs to invest significantly less energy to convert the food and extract the nutrients. So, get a good blender and make tasty and healthy green smoothies every day!

Are fruit or vegetables healthier?

One of the most important questions for nutritionists. Let’s put the bottom line upfront: Both contain a lot of vitamins and minerals. Yet there’re subtle differences, which justify a deep dive the ExperienceZone way.

Fruit have one downside

Children usually prefer fruit over veggies. Why’s that? Speaking constitution types, children have a lot of Kapha (that’s one of the three Ayuverda Dosha’s, which stands for people who tend to eat high-caloric food and thus run the risk so become overweighted if they neither grow more work out). With this trick, nature takes care that our offspring passes its rites of passage physically. Are fruit really high-calorie food? It depends. A banana contain 100 calories, whilst fruit high in fluid, such as watermelon, are usually low in calories. Hence, food density plays a role. Also, the type of calories. Extra virgin olive oil contains 800 calories per 100 gram, yet doesn’t make you fat as it gets directly metabolized by your body. In contrast, saturated animal based fat, such as butter, in combination with carbs,  such as wheat, refuels your fat cells.

Before you head spins and eventually explodes, let me come full circle here. Fruit contain sugar – next to antioxidants, fiber and phytochemical. The two sugar types are called glucose and fructose. These sweeteners make children crave for fruit and leave the veggies on their plates. Although they give your body energy straightaway, too much fructose can harm your digestive functions. Glucose is your little helper. It supports to metabolize fructose. Most fruit contain both forms of sugar. Look for those, which contain at least a 1:1 relation between glucose and fructose, such as dried figs and dates. By the way: Drying food preserves it, yet also increases its sugar proportion. Also, bananas contain a healthy ratio between glucose and fructose. That’s the reason why many claim them to be the primal human food next to coconuts.

Find the right mix!

Both groups are healthy. They belong to the foundation of our food pyramid and thus need to make up the largest part of our daily intake. In which ratio, at which times and in which quantities?

  1. Eat more veggies: You can smartly mix fruit with vegetables – in a salad or a blender. Latter is particularly recommendable as it purifies your food, so that your body doesn’t need to invest any energy in digestion but can metabolize the nutritions straightaway. Since veggies are by nature less sweet than fruit, you can mix them with sweet fruit in a 3:2 relation. In general, you want to eat bitter, sour and hot food rather than sweet one. Too much sweet stuff creates a fertile soil for parasites of all kinds.
  2. Eat them raw: Once you heat your food over 43 degree Celsius or 118 degree Fahrenheit, vitamins, minerals as well as the precious enzymes, which you need to digest the food, disappear. Therefore, eat fruit and vegetables raw. The closer our diet to nature, the healthier we’re, the better we look and the longer we live.
  3. Eat fruit first: Different types of food take different time to get digested. Fruit pass your intestines very fast. They’re speed racers. If you eat your fruit salad after a heavy meal, than they feel insulted and pay you back. How? They rotten and cause bowel gases and other digestive problems.

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